Going through a family and domestic violence situation can be stressful and terrifying and until you are put in that situation you can’t imagine what you will think and feel.
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Ahead of the 2018 Coastal Walk Against Family and Domestic Violence we sat down with a woman who has lived through family violence and came out the other side a survivor.
Here is her story.
Can you explain your experience with family/domestic violence?
When you grow up with violence, you’re told you’re not allowed to speak about it. Then as you hear other people talking about it, you begin to realise it’s not normal and that violent behaviour is not okay.
My father hated my husband and came between us until we got a divorce. I moved home to care for my sick mother and then the violence towards me became more aggressive.
In the end, police came to our home seven times over two months. I was encouraged by police to leave and they linked me in with the Domestic and Family Violence Specialist Service.
Taking those first steps was overwhelming.
What has changed in your life since?
Since then, everything has changed. My whole appearance and the way I feel about myself. I have learnt to forgive myself and love myself after always being told I wasn’t good enough.
When I was first linked in with DFVSS, I finally had hope. There was no judgement, just overwhelming support and generosity from the workers and the community.
My support worker at Galbaan House (DFVSS’ crisis accommodation) inspired me and pushed me in the right direction. She helped me let my walls down and made me believe in myself.
Finally, I realised I had the strength and courage to achieve my goals and overcome my challenges. I got my own unit, my own car and a job.
How has that affected you and how you do things?
It’s an ongoing journey, and I’m still seeing a counsellor. It’s important to release your feelings and continue to move forward and keep growing.
My experience is like a wound. If you keep scratching at it will get worse, but if you leave it alone and give it time it will heal. I have more patience these days.
What would you like people to know about violence?
When it comes to domestic violence, silence is deadly. You must speak out. You’re not alone. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and let the services work together for you.
If you’re scared, there are plenty of places to start – online, Centrelink, the Police or places like DFVSS. A phone call is all it takes.
What does the Coastal Walk Against Domestic and Family Violence mean to you? Why is it important the community comes and supports the walk?
The Coastal Walk Against Domestic and Family Violence helps increase awareness that violence in our community is real and helps people realise that it is not okay.
Events like this get people talking about silent behaviours and create positive change in people’s lives.
If I can touch just one person through my own story, then I’ve achieved something incredibly worthwhile.
The 2018 Coastal Walk Against Family and Domestic Violence will take place on November 25 from Lighthouse Beach to Westport Park.
Walkers are encouraged in start at either Lighthouse Beach at 8am, Flynns Beach at 9am or Town Green at 9.30am before a barbecue at Westport Park afterwards.
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